My 2015 Theme Verse

“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

OK, so before you immediately get discouraged thinking, “Wait…I don’t have a theme verse. I’ve never heard of that idea. I wonder if I need a theme verse,” don’t worry. I never had a theme verse until last week. The Lord simply impressed upon me to make a bite-sized goal for myself this year.

You see, New Year’s resolutions, for me, are a terrible and counterproductive thing. Because I’m a perfectionist, I set very precise, sometimes very lofty goals. I fail, and then I loathe myself for the remaining 358 days of the year. (I usually do well for exactly one week.)

So I’ve sworn off New Year’s resolutions for years. I don’t make them and I don’t feel the least bit guilty about it.

But this Christmas family road trip that we took, (more to come on that in another post), was like a magnifying glass into our family dynamics and interactions. And let me tell ya, friends, I come up short.

Pretty sure it was somewhere in Kansas that I had this interaction with my eldest. It went something like this.
Me: Pickle, now that we’re stopped, I need to fill your water bottle.
P: MOM! I tried to give it to you earlier and now I can’t find it! Gaaahhhh!!
Me: How is that my fault?! You showed me your empty cup like it was a trophy! You never asked for water, and we were driving. You knew I wouldn’t be able to fill it then.

As the nasty words were flowing out of my mouth, it was like a Hollywood slow-motion scene. A divine, “Nooooooooooooooo…Doooon’t doooooo iiiiiiiit!!!!!!” was ringing in my ears.

In my defense, I was horribly sick with the flu, the van was a disaster, and my son didn’t communicate with me. But in his defense, he was horribly sick with the flu, the van was a disaster, and he’s 10. Communication isn’t his forte. It is mine. I have very little trouble expressing my thoughts (obviously) and I can read between the lines very well. I should have known my kid needed water and I blew it.

But the Lord impressed upon me something much more simple on which I can work. My answers. How I respond. It’s not even what I say most of the time, but how I say it. My tone.

Here’s how the Lord replayed that scenario in my head…

Me: Pickle, now that we’re stopped, I need to fill your water bottle.
P: MOM! I tried to give it to you earlier and now I can’t find it! Gaaahhhh!!
Me: I’m sorry, honey. I didn’t catch on to what you were asking earlier. Do you need help finding your water bottle?

Oh. My. Word. How much better was that? Seriously.

After the Lord opened my eyes to this character flaw that I desperately need to work on, I asked Him to give me just one verse that I can memorize to keep me mindful and on track this year. He, in His goodness, gave me a verse that I had already memorized years ago. I only had to find the reference.

“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

I want very badly for my children to have peace and tranquility, not just when they are in our home, but whenever they are in my presence. Sometimes we cannot be sheltered inside these four walls that we call “home,” but I desperately want them to feel at home in my heart.

My kiddos, especially my eldest, have a lot of anger, even wrath, greatly due to their past. Do I want to help them turn away that wrath or stir it up? Well, when asked that question, the answer is a no-brainer. However, when I’m not consciously asking myself that question, I can get hooked by their often-present anger and join in. The Lord is calling me to something higher. Better. I often have to remind my son that he’s the kid and I’m the parent. Now the Lord is reminding me, They’re the kids, You’re the parent.

And the Lord wants me to focus on one thing in 2015 — a soft answer. It’s not in my personality. It doesn’t come naturally for me. I love being quick-witted and sharp. Sharp is usually attributed as a positive trait…”That gal is sharp!” But sharp can poke an eye out. I want…and need…to learn the discipline of being soft with my children.

Well, now that I’ve totally made myself vulnerable to you all, my dear reader mamas…what is your one thing this year? Has the Lord laid a verse on your heart? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Feel free to share here!

Blessings and much love, 


7 thoughts on “My 2015 Theme Verse

  1. PSALM 112 came to me during my morning Bible study one day while we were in AL, just as I was thinking about our family.
    “Praise the Lord!
    Blessed is the man who fears the Lord,
    Who delights greatly in His commandments.
    2 His descendants will be mighty on earth;
    The generation of the upright will be blessed.”

  2. Oh, Glenda…I love this! I am this way so much of the time with my husband, as well as my mom. My husband is such a kind and gentle person and as hard as I try slip up in my effort. My mom is so needy right now, I keep having to remind myself of the reason behind her neediness. I am working on it, but this definitely touched a string in my heart. Thank you for reminding me of what I already know!

  3. I, so far, do not have a verse for the year. But I am So grateful that when I need a verse The Lord brings one to me. Last night our daughter was starting to show signs of having another panic attack as the night wore on. I sent out SOSs to several friends and one responded by telling me to have the following verse written on a card and have her put it under her pillow while she sleeps. It’s 7:22 am and no panic attack happened, praise The Lord! Here is the verse:

    “When thou liest down, thou shalt not be afraid: yea, thou shalt lie down, and thy sleep shall be sweet.” Proverbs 3:24

  4. I’ve always said of all of the fruits of the Spirit, gentleness seems to be the hardest for me to take hold of. Thank you so much for sharing this I needed to be reminded of this.
    The Lord didn’t give it to me this year but one year at Camp meeting. Heidi had moved into a larger cabin and I moved into her old one. There it was on the wall exactly what I needed to hear exactly when I needed to hear it (as the Lord so often does for us) Ephesians 4:1-3
    God Bless You!

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