Called to Love – Part 2 “You don’t have to be the ‘-est'”

Friday night, we heard from our first keynote speaker, attachment therapist, Suzy Killeen. She said so many good things that night. But I have to admit something to you. Once she said, “You don’t have to be the ‘-est’…the prettiest, the strongest, the smartest…” the Lord took over and I didn’t really hear anything else she said. To me, that’s a hallmark of a speaker who is yielded to God. (*disclaimer – I can’t remember what “-est” words she used!)

As I was sitting there listening, the Lord impressed upon me that there is only one “-est” He He requires of me, and that is HONEST. I need to be honest. Honest with Him and honest with myself about what He expects of me. I am my worst critic. He, however, is my best cheerleader.

Are you overwhelmed with that picture in your head of what your life “should” look like? Where did that picture come from? Be honest. Did it come from all those fairy tale movies you watched as a little girl?

Do you feel like you’re not the right mom for those precious kiddos of yours? Be honest. Do you feel inadequate because you are constantly comparing yourself to other moms who seem to be doing it “right”?

Is your marriage suffering? Where did those lofty expectations you have of your husband come from? Be honest. How many commercials and TV shows have you watched lately that lift up men instead of devaluing them?

I am not an expert in this area, but I do have experience, so I am going to share my heart with you for a minute.

God gives us callings and a vision for our future, but He will never paint us a fairy tale picture that we cannot match up to. God doesn’t call us to compare ourselves to others, but to line up to His Word alone. I’ve heard this phrase a lot, and it’s true, so I’ll share it with you. “God didn’t make you a perfect parent, but He made you the perfect parent for your kids.” In that same vein, you were made for your husband and you are meant to be married to him for life. And so discontentment has to go. God doesn’t want you to compare your husband to other men any more than He wants you to compare yourself to other women. As you commit to lining your life up to Scripture, the Lord will draw your husband, no matter what spiritual condition he may be in, to Himself.

“But godliness with contentment is great gain.” (I Timothy 6:6)

Near the end of Suzy’s talk, the Lord whispered such peace to me by reminding me of His promise. If I am HONEST with Him by coming to Him when I am weak, and heavy laden, instead of trying to do it all in my own strength, He promises that He will give me REST. As a tired and worn-out wife and mama, that’s the best sounding “-EST” there is!

“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30)

Blessings and much love,


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